Happily Ever After

Dear children.. Once upon a time in a very strange land called Singledom, there lived an ever so slightly green (and occasionally windy) ogre called Grog. He wasn’t rich, famous or even particularly clever but he was kind, decent, had a good heart, and really, that’s all that mattered to him. Before making the long […]

The Perfect Husband?

Here’s a little but wise story from Nasruddin about this dance I’m doing; Once there were two friends who would meet every New Year’s Eve and discuss their future plans. The first one asked the second, “What are you going to do this year?” “I’m going to find myself the perfect wife,” the first friend […]

Model Parent?

A few of my colleagues here at work are expecting babies in the next few months, so being the man (father) of experience I have been passing on my fatherly wisdom. When I took my first born to the crèche he wouldn’t stay there, he clung to my leg like a limpet mine and I’d […]

Gaining Perspective

When I was about eleven, Mary Whitehead, our art teacher, asked the class to draw a typical street scene. We had two hours to complete our works of art and then she would tell us what she thought. I dutifully drew the High Street, the shops, people out shopping and a few cars, typical Saturday […]

The Caretaker

Someone once said that we don’t own possessions, possessions own us. To some degree I can agree with that, we arrive in the world empty handed and seem to spend the rest of our lives gaining possession but looking back over the years I’ve come to realise that I don’t actually own very muh at […]

Groundhog Day?

Buddha Siddhartha Guatama Shakyamuni  (yes, trying saying that when tipsy) said the following; “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” I didn’t realise it at the time but my teacher appeared 20 years ago when Groundhog Day was released.  I remember watching it at the flicks and enjoying it at the time; “Murray […]

Patience, a virtue?

In 2009 about five million people watched the ‘My Finale’ episode of Scrubs when John Dorian left Scared Heart Teaching Hospital. It was a hour long special and the last few minutes of the episode was taken up playing the above song. You can view the actual scene here. This song has haunted me ever […]

What is love?

Love is more easily experienced than defined. As a theological virtue, by which we love God above all things and our neighbours as ourselves for his sake, it seems remote until we encounter it enfleshed, so to say, in the life of another – in acts of kindness, generosity and self-sacrifice. Love’s the one thing […]

Simple Pleasures

The List Good bread Buying yourself flowers Someone else buying you flowers Clean sheets Looking for shells Doing something you’ve been putting off Fixing something A valentine surprise Clean windows at last Warm towels Being met at the airport Coins in a wishing well Foot rubs after a long day Tasks you did with your […]

31 Ways To Know You’re In The Right Relationship

To help you answer that question, you lucky thing, here’s a completely unscientific list of 31 ways to know you’re in the right relationship: You don’t… 1.    Fear it. If you’re afraid of commitment, best to work that out before you put yourself in a situation where it’s hoped you’ll eventually commit. 2.    Hide anything […]